The majority of females are not happy with their bodies. Thin, fat, short, tall, almost every one of us have things that we don't like about ourselves, whether it be breast size, ass size, waist size, teeth, hair, hands, we can always seem to find fault with our own selves while preaching to others to be confident and happy with themselves.
The majority of these No Body Shame advertisements are aimed at overweight women. Let's be honest here, yes, I do know that there are small women who are deemed too thin and are teased and taunted also, and told to "go eat a cheese burger", but a smaller women is far more accepted in society than a larger woman. There is a fat joke for everything. "your mama is so fat...." If someone doesn't like you, the first thing out of their mouth is, "fat ass" or "fat pig" when they can't come up with something intelligent to say.
I watch the TV show, "My Fat Fabulous Life" with Whitney Way Thore. For those of you who haven't seen it, Whitney is a bigger woman, who was thin for most of her life until she was diagnosed with PCOS. On one of her episodes, she was confronted by a comedian (whom I can't even remember her name nor do I want to because she was an absolute miserable cunt) who made fun of Whitney for being fat in whatever way she could. When the subject was brought up, this comedian did tell her some hurtful truths, such as how much Whitney cries on her shows (while claiming to be happy), and how she eats all the time. Of course, Whitney became very defensive and tried to shut her down but some times, the truth hurts. She failed to remember that the cameras showed her eating junk food all the time, in fact, her trainer even fired her for it!
Let's face it, I bet 99% of people who are fat are fat because they eat too much junk and don't get enough exercise -- myself included. Although there may be a few people out there who are happy and confident in their robust body, being fat is not fun, and the majority of people do not choose to be fat. Yes, there are some medications and diseases that cause weight gain but the obesity epidemic is most likely caused by severe underlying mental conditions. Some people have been through traumatic experiences in their lives and their way of dealing with it is to eat. Eating gives us comfort and enjoyment. Everyone deals with trauma in different ways; some choose to medicate themselves with drugs or alcohol, and food can become just as addictive.
Myself, I don't have a traumatic experience that I can blame my fat assery on. I can blame it on learning bad habits at a young age. My mother is overweight. Growing up, we celebrated things by going out to eat at a restaurant or ordering a pizza. I was very active as a child. I had a lot of friends and would spend all day long riding my bike or walking around town but I was still the fat kid because I came home and ate junk food. We didn't have a lot of money, so a lot of our meals consisted of hot dogs, macaroni and cheese, and hamburger helper.
As I got older, these habits stayed with me. The habits turned into an addiction, an addition to food.. It's an addiction that is worse than drugs or alcohol because we have to eat to live. It's like telling an alcoholic, you have to have one drink every single day but you have to stop at just that one, you can't have any more. It's everywhere. Food is on TV, the radio, it's on every highway. It's like setting a bottle of vodka in front of an alcoholic and telling him to drink water. It's a constant battle inside of your head when you know you shouldn't be eating this but you can't stop yourself. While eating, you feel an instant comfort and temporary gratification that you can;t find anywhere else. A calm comes over you in those few minutes while you are eating. Once you are done eating, you feel miserable with yourself. You feel fat, bloated, uncomfortable, and mentally angry at yourself for giving into temptation again... and again. I beat myself up about being fat more than any human being ever could. I know I am fat. I know I have a problem and it is a constant mental war going on inside of my head.
Someone who has never been fat has absolutely no idea what it is like to be fat and struggle with an addiction to food. If they were raised from childhood to eat healthy and workout on a regular basis of course it just seems like basic common sense. It comes easy to you because you have never had to fight the addiction and you grew up learning these habits.
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Some people just have very high metabolisms. I have friends who have always been thin and probably always will be thin, yet they eat almost double what I eat and they don't need to worry about an addiction to food. All of their lives, they have been able to eat whatever the Hell they want to eat and not gain a pound, and they will never understand what that struggle is like. They will never understand how jealous I am of them.
Food addiction is real but no one wants to admit that it's real. No one wants to admit that they are fat because they eat too much and don't work out. We try to blame it on everything else instead of face the truth. It's a constant mental fight. Why do we coddle people with drug addictions and alcohol addictions but make fun of those who have food addictions? Is an alcoholic funny? So why is my being fat funny to some?
I will discuss the topic of obesity and food addiction more in the future. I would love to have others chime in with their opinions on the subject and/or experiences.
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