Thursday, November 3, 2016

Food Addiction and Being Fat

I am all about the no body shame campaigns and trying to develop a positive body image but no one talks about food addiction and the role it plays in being overweight. I have been overweight for the majority of my life (no, really! -- since about 5 years of age). I know that all bodies are different. Everyone's body develops differently, and metabolism speeds are different for everyone. There is no one correct body size or shape to be. Girls grow up watching other females on tv or seeing them in magazines believing that they are the definition of beauty, not realizing that many of these women have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on plastic surgery or have hours of photo shop work done on their photos.

The majority of females are not happy with their bodies. Thin, fat, short, tall, almost every one of us have things that we don't like about ourselves, whether it be breast size, ass size, waist size, teeth, hair, hands, we can always seem to find fault with our own selves while preaching to others to be confident and happy with themselves.

The majority of these No Body Shame advertisements are aimed at overweight women. Let's be honest here, yes, I do know that there are small women who are deemed too thin and are teased and taunted also, and told to "go eat a cheese burger", but a smaller women is far more accepted in society than a larger woman. There is a fat joke for everything. "your mama is so fat...." If someone doesn't like you, the first thing out of their mouth is, "fat ass" or "fat pig" when they can't come up with something intelligent to say.

I watch the TV show, "My Fat Fabulous Life" with Whitney Way Thore. For those of you who haven't seen it, Whitney is a bigger woman, who was thin for most of her life until she was diagnosed with PCOS. On one of her episodes, she was confronted by a comedian (whom I can't even remember her name nor do I want to because she was an absolute miserable cunt) who made fun of Whitney for being fat in whatever way she could. When the subject was brought up, this comedian did tell her some hurtful truths, such as how much Whitney cries on her shows (while claiming to be happy), and how she eats all the time. Of course, Whitney became very defensive and tried to shut her down but some times, the truth hurts. She failed to remember that the cameras showed her eating junk food all the time, in fact, her trainer even fired her for it!

Let's face it, I bet 99% of people who are fat are fat because they eat too much junk and don't get enough exercise -- myself included. Although there may be a few people out there who are happy and confident in their robust body, being fat is not fun, and the majority of people do not choose to be fat. Yes, there are some medications and diseases that cause weight gain but the obesity epidemic is most likely caused by severe underlying mental conditions. Some people have been through traumatic experiences in their lives and their way of dealing with it is to eat. Eating gives us comfort and enjoyment. Everyone deals with trauma in different ways; some choose to medicate themselves with drugs or alcohol, and food can become just as addictive.

Myself, I don't have a traumatic experience that I can blame my fat assery on. I can blame it on learning bad habits at a young age. My mother is overweight. Growing up, we celebrated things by going out to eat at a restaurant or ordering a pizza. I was very active as a child. I had a lot of friends and would spend all day long riding my bike or walking around town but I was still the fat kid because I came home and ate junk food. We didn't have a lot of money, so a lot of our meals consisted of hot dogs, macaroni and cheese, and hamburger helper.

As I got older, these habits stayed with me. The habits turned into an addiction, an addition to food.. It's an addiction that is worse than drugs or alcohol because we have to eat to live. It's like telling an alcoholic, you have to have one drink every single day but you have to stop at just that one, you can't have any more. It's everywhere. Food is on TV, the radio, it's on every highway.  It's like setting a bottle of vodka in front of an alcoholic and telling him to drink water. It's a constant battle inside of your head when you know you shouldn't be eating this but you can't stop yourself. While eating, you feel an instant comfort and temporary gratification that you can;t find anywhere else. A calm comes over you in those few minutes while you are eating. Once you are done eating, you feel miserable with yourself. You feel fat, bloated, uncomfortable, and mentally angry at yourself for giving into temptation again... and again. I beat myself up about being fat more than any human being ever could. I know I am fat. I know I have a problem and it is a constant mental war going on inside of my head.

Someone who has never been fat has absolutely no idea what it is like to be fat and struggle with an addiction to food. If they were raised from childhood to eat healthy and workout on a regular basis of course it just seems like basic common sense. It comes easy to you because you have never had to fight the addiction and you grew up learning these habits.
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Some people just have very high metabolisms. I have friends who have always been thin and probably always will be thin, yet they eat almost double what I eat and they don't need to worry about an addiction to food. All of their lives, they have been able to eat whatever the Hell they want to eat and not gain a pound, and they will never understand what that struggle is like. They will never understand how jealous I am of them.

Food addiction is real but no one wants to admit that it's real. No one wants to admit that they are fat because they eat too much and don't work out. We try to blame it on everything else instead of face the truth.  It's a constant mental fight. Why do we coddle people with drug addictions and alcohol addictions but make fun of those who have food addictions? Is an alcoholic funny? So why is my being fat funny to some?

I will discuss the topic of obesity and food addiction more in the future. I would love to have others chime in with their opinions on the subject and/or experiences.





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34 comments:

  1. I think you hit the nail on the head here!

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  2. It's totally real! Life is all about balance and finding what works for you (which isn't always the easiest path of available options.)

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  3. I think it is a real thing. I also think an element if self control is required.

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    1. Any addiction is all about self control. No one forces us to eat junk, just like no one forces a druggie to put a needle in his vein. We can just as easily say no but it's a constant struggle inside of ourselves.

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  4. I'm an alcoholic and I am thin but I used to weigh over 200 pounds. I lost it by eating a little less and moving more. Nothing extreme and it took about two years to get back down. I see a dietician weekly and she helped a lot. I
    Know how to watch my intake now. I will say losing weight and getting fit is harder than quitting alcohol. I'm five years sober and healthier than ever but I have to be making conscious choices daily.

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    1. Congrats to you and great job! I remember when I was younger watching a show on MTV about celebrities and drug use. One guy said that once he got off of drugs, he gained a lot of weight, and that losing the weight was harder than getting sober. I think having depression and anxiety like I do, just makes it ten times worse because I'm always searching for something to comfort myself with.

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  5. This is real!

    I really love food, but I do try to limit myself. I just try to jog on a daily basis so I can eat the junk food I enjoy. I could never give it up.

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  6. Very interesting. I never really understood what was pulling me to eat. Even when I know I can't possibly be hungry. Like now! lol

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    1. Sometimes I catch myself just stuffing my face for no reason, and a lot of times I don't even realize how much I've actually eaten until afterwards when it's too late. Is it because I'm bored? Lonely? Or is it because the food gives me a "high"? I really don't know.

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  7. Isn't it crazy they teach us this when we are kids. Eat healthy and exercise and as adults its harder to grasp.

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    1. My habits started very young. I always knew what I was supposed to eat and do but I couldn't get myself out of the bad habits. When I was a kid, I was very active but ate like crap. Now I'm a single mother working full time, too tired to force myself to get up off of my butt after working all day but knowing that I need to!

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  8. I enjoy food and try to limit my carbs intake. It's a struggle at times since I love pastries. I know that eating less will make me lose weight.

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    1. I know people who have lost quite a bit of weight doing low carb.. but as soon as they go off of it, they balloon back up. Carbs are the devil!!

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  9. Mechell,
    Thank you so much for your humility and transparency. It's rare - and refreshing - to see someone write without making excuses. God's Word identifies gluttony as a sin, and I appreciate you not sugar coating it. I hope this can encourage lots of people with the same struggle.

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    1. Thank you!! As strange as it may seem, I really appreciate that!

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  10. I'm trying to teach my kindy children at work about healthy eating habits, it so important to learn them at a young age. Thanks for sharing.

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  11. Great post. Very well written. And great points. It's a double standard, for sure. I think mental health and obesity are two things that need to be recognized more by the media and people as a serious condition and something everyone needs to be more sensitive to others about. I was raised eating junk food as well, and it is a seriously hard habit to break. It's comfort food, reminds me of being a kid. I'm not overweight, but I do think it contributes to my anxiety, depression and general fatigue.

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    1. Oh I'm sure it does. I think eating healthy and moving your body definitely has a positive effect on your mental health, and junk food has the opposite effect.

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  12. A very interesting read. Thank you for sharing!

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  13. I do agree. It should not be about being fat or being thin in the first place. It should always be a question of, are you eating healthy? There indeed are bigger bodied people and petite people but not necessarily fat. They are indeed healthy.

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    1. The same also goes for thin people who are not healthy Just because someone is not overweight, does not necessarily mean that they are healthy.

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  14. I like this post especially that I had eating disorder and now I'm trying to eat healthy

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    1. Good for you! I believe most people think of an "eating disorder" as being bulemic or anorexic, and they don't think about the other end of the spectrum!

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  15. Keep writing about this topic - it is so important! <3 I have watched Whitney's show a few times and loved her! She's a great advocate!

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    1. Yes, she is great.. I just don't like her attempts at making excuses for being so big. People need to start being honest with themselves a little bit.

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  16. I love carbs and can have a serious sweet tooth problem at times. I have experienced disappointment with my body but shamed is not something I will accept. That's just me.

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  17. People can be insensitive especially when it comes to our weight. To most of them, it's obesity and the person experiencing it is just in denial. That's it. Instead of looking into it further they would rather just come up with their own conclusions as to why a person is overweight.

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    1. Very true.. and most of the people doing it are ones who either have a super high metabolism and have never HAD to watch what they eat, or they were brought up having a healthy lifestyle so it comes easy to them.

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    1. I go agree that it has, but I think a lot of people don't consider overeating as being a disorder.

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  19. I suffer from food addiction and not being able to talk about it easily!! It is so true that you can never get the fat you our of your head even after you loose weight. You can't just stop eating so its a hard addiction to cover come.

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    1. Ive heard this many times.. even people who have lost hundreds of pounds still see a fat body when they look in the mirror and never consider themselves as "thin".

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