Friday, November 17, 2017

Beautiful For Just One Day

Do you ever look at someone of the same sex and think, "Holy shit, they are gorgeous!"? Not in a sexual type of way, but you just think that they are the epitome of beauty? I'm not talking about photoshopped women in magazines, I'm talking about real life people. I sometimes wonder to myself what it would be like to be beautiful for just one day.

I've always been a bigger girl, since I was about 5 years old. I'm the fat friend, the friend who used to go out with her friends and watch her friends get hit on while I just sat quietly in the corner. I was the one that guys would come to when they wanted to get advice about asking out my friend or what they could do to get her to like him. I was always the one who was looked over -- I was always the one that guys just wanted to be friends with. "You're such a sweet girl, but I only like you as a friend" is one thing I have heard entirely too many times in my life.

I see these other females with the so-called perfect cute little curvy body and gorgeous faces, and think, What would it be like to look like them? How different would my life be?

Beautiful people are definitely treated better than the not-so-beautiful people. Strangers chat them up more, hold doors for them more, and tend to want to help them out more. I can't imagine how much different their lives must be than mine.

For just one day I would love to see what it felt like to be beautiful. I know, I know, we are all beautiful in our own way, blah, blah, blah -- but to truly be beautiful on the outside, not just the inside. What's it like to post photos on Facebook and get 2304824 comments telling you how beautiful you are (without 10 different filters), or to have multiple men at your disposal, being able to pick and choose which one you want.

But then I think, there are a lot of shallow men out there who only look at a woman's outside appearance. What happens once she gets older, she puts on a few pounds, and things start sagging all over the place? Are those shallow men going to still be there? Do these women often wonder if a man is after her just for her looks and not her personality? Does that bother them? I really don't know the answer to that because I don't have that problem! Do they realize how lucky they truly are? Society is judged by their outside. Beautiful people are definitely privileged, but they probably don't realize it.

Can someone wave their wand and make me beautiful for just one day? I just want to see how differently people would treat me and what it's like for one single day. Does anyone else think about things like that? What do you wish you could be for just one day?

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Friday, November 10, 2017

10 Mistakes Men Make On Dating Apps

Most of my advice is aimed towards women, although, most of it can be used for either sex. Today I'm going to give you men some advice and tell you the best things NOT to do on a dating site if you are serious about finding a date and a possible relationship.

Men and women think so much differently that it amazes me sometimes. It's easy for me to get upset about something a man does, but I have to remind myself that men do not think like women. Their thought process is completely different from ours. Something that might upset us, men probably think is no big deal. They may be hurting our feelings without even knowing it. They approach situations differently than women do. This can sometimes cause problems when it comes to relationships and dating because we often times assume that our partner thinks the same things or the same ways that we do, when they actually don't. This is why people have different opinions on various subjects and where arguments can ensue.

Top 10 Mistakes Men Make On Dating Apps

  • Use almost nude photos in your profile -- no bathroom selfies of you in your underwear, or any photos with just your weiner covered. This tells us right away that you are only looking for one thing.
  • No hunting photos. Look, us ladies do not want to look at dead animals or big slimy dead fish. We don't care as much as you do!
  • Don't leave your profile blank or say things like "just ask" or "I will fill this out later" or "I'm not good at talking about myself so just hmu" -- how do you expect us to know whether or not we have something in common when you can't say one thing about yourself? How do you expect to spark our interest??
  • Do not send us messages saying, "hey" or "sup?" We most likely get a lot of messages from hungry men. If you want your message to stand out and get attention then put a little bit of effort into it.
  • Do not ask about sex within the first five messages -- or even in the first conversation at all! Look, we all enjoy sex, but most of us are looking for more than just a hook up and when you ask about sex right away, it tells us that it's the only thing on your mind and it might put us off.
  • NO DICK PICS! I can't say this enough!! MEN, we do not want to see it!!! We do not care!! We have probably received hundreds of dick pics and yours is not special!! We don't want to stroke your ego and tell you how huge it is. If we like you, things will get to that point eventually, so knock it off with the dick pics!!
  • Stop expecting us to put all of the effort into the chat. Make an effort to ask us questions or to send the first message/text. For me, if I feel like I am the only one making an effort in the conversation, I will ditch it and move on to someone who can show some interest.
  • Don't ghost!! If you start chatting with someone and feel that there is no connection, man up, grow some balls and just tell us that you don't think there is a connection. This way, we can move on and we don't have to wonder to ourselves what happened or if we did something wrong. Ghosting is so fucking rude!!!
  • Don't go on a dating site just looking for friends. Really? It's a DATING SITE, not a chit chat site. Most everyone is here to meet and hopefully eventually date. Why do people do this??
  • Don't lie. If you are not single, don't lie about it -- eventually, it will all come to light. If you are looking just to hook-up with someone and not date then be upfront about it. Don't just string us along making us think that you are seriously interested just to get some action. Just Don't. 
  • Don't swipe right on every single profile and then weed out the ones you are not interested in when you get matches. I can't believe this is even a thing! Only swipe right on people you are interested in getting to know -- otherwise, you may be getting someone's hopes up ]just to be let down when you don't respond or tell them you're not interested. 
Ok, this is actually 11, I added one last minute, but close enough. I can not believe how many men do these types of things on online dating sites. You have to try and put some effort into this whole dating thing if you are serious about it. If you are not serious about it then you need to get off of dating apps.

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Online dating can be a scary place. So many people to choose from and you don't really know how someone is until you meet them. If you want to find someone to go out with and possibly establish a relationship with then you need to stop making these stupid mistakes.

Anyone have anything else to add to the list? Tell me in a comment!

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Wednesday, November 1, 2017

New Book On The Horizon -- Narcissistic Sociopath

Awhile back, I began a short story series called, "My Life With A Narcopath" on this blog. It ended up being much longer then I intended so I eventually stopped it. I decided to turn it into a book!

I combined everything I had written in the blog, added a ton more detail and finished the story. I've been working on it for awhile and it's now complete! I've gone over and over it a million times and also had a friend/book connosieur read through it for any proofreading or editing help. I was so hesitant to send it to her because I really never feel confident in the things I write and I wasn't sure if it was up to par. Her response was amazing!!

"I'm on page 26 and I can't stop fucking reading!! This is going to be a best seller!!! You wrote it with so much heart, I can really feel your pain, and how much you dreamed of being married with kids, and how hard you fought to make the marriage work, forced yourself to believe his bullshit in order to save the marriage. Your story is every woman's story."

I really wasn't expecting that response, honestly.

I just have a few ends to tie up before it is ready for print. It will be available in print and as an e-book. I'm having a problem coming up with a suitable title. Monster in Disguise is what I had in mind while writing the book but that just seems too -- childish. I just can't find something that really hits me and makes me say, "THAT'S IT!".

I could use some help here!! The book is basically about my marriage being one big sham and finding out that my now ex-husband was the complete opposite of who I married. He is a narcissistic sociopath. Our entire marriage was based on lies and he was pure evil, and all of the horrible things he put me and our kids through. He really was evil disguised as the man of my dreams. 

Once I get a title set in stone then I just need to design the cover and make sure everything is formatted correctly and it will be ready!! I am sooo flippin' excited and wanted to start putting the word out as soon as possible!!

Anyone have some good ideas for a fitting title?? I would really appreciate any input in the comments!! Also, if any of you have self-published a book, please hit me up with any tips and advice. I am all ears!

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