Sunday, March 26, 2017

Plus Size Dresses for Spring

Now that spring has officially arrived, even though it may not feel like it some places, it's time to get our closet ready for the warmer weather. I have found some super cute plus size spring dresses for pretty great prices that I'm sure you will want to take a gander at.

I am not exactly the dress wearing  type of girl because I'm more of a Tom boy, but these dresses are just too cute to pass up... and let's be honest, you can not get more comfortable than just throwing on a light and soft dress like these, whether it be for a day out on the town or just to lounge around the house in. I know I am a lot more comfortable in a dress like these than a pair of jeans. For realz, look at these:

I mean, seriously, it's purple and has butterflies! How much cuter could this get? The best part is that it comes in sizes XL - 5X and only costs $15.70.  I don't know about you, but I've found that it's fairly difficult to find plus size dresses for this price. It also comes in different colors like red, yellow and blue, so you could buy more than one of them just in different colors!

but then, there's also this:

If you are comfortable showing off a little bit of leg, this dress would be an amazing one to wear on an evening out on the town whether you are with friends or a special man. It shows off your curves without giving too much away and comes in a light khaki color also, and you can get it now for only $20.06 and sizes up to 5XL.

 Don't hide behind baggy compris and t-shirts, throw caution to the wind and splurge on yourself a little bit by trying one of these cute little plus size dresses. You never know if you might like something unless you try it. You may put one of these dresses on, take one look in the mirror and say DAMN! I am cute, and then you will feel absolutely amazing about yourself. Believe me, a cute little spring dress can really boost your confidence.

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Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Fat Shaming vs Thin Shaming

Body shaming of any kind is just wrong. Who are YOU to tell anyone that the way their body is shaped is wrong or ugly? You don't get that right and if you think you have that right, you are an asshole. I see a lot of comments on fat shaming posts where many people complain about getting thin shamed for the opposite reasons of fat shaming. I know this to be true because I have a friends who have been made fun of for being too thin. Thin shaming typically comes in the form of being told to go eat a cheeseburger or called names like Olive Oil for being so skinny.



I've also heard people mention thin privilege - which by the way, I think is one of the dumbest things I've heard in a long time. I don't really think that thin people get special treatment (now, maybe if they have curves, big boobs and a pretty face, then they may get special treatment but I really don't think thin people are treated better based solely on how thin they are.

Let's face it though, thin people are more readily accepted and don't have to deal with a lot of things that overweight people have to deal with. Now, maybe I'm wrong and I challenge any of you to share your story and show me differently so that I can understand better, but when you're thin you don't have to worry about not being able to keep up with others when going for a walk or bike ride, you don't have to worry about being able to fit in a seat in a movie theatre or a booth at a restaurant. You can easily find clothes to fit you, even if it means you have to go to the children's section. I highly doubt that people will walk behind you and mock you or make animal sounds at you. You probably don't have to worry about what you are eating or if other people are staring at you while you eat in public.

These examples are just the tip of the iceberg.

I really don't agree with the memes going around saying things like, "only dog's like bones" in an attempt to say that only dog's like thin girls and real men like bigger women. No, men like whatever the Hell they want, just like women like different types of men, men like different types of women. There is no wrong or right.
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Just please, don't compare being too thin to being too fat. They are too completely different extremes. I'm really not trying to downplay bullying someone who is thin but a thin person doesn't have a clue how difficult it is to be overweight not only physically but mentally, and discriminated against in regards to jobs and other aspects of life. Think about it, people are killing themselves to be thin; they are killing themselves because they don't want to look like ME. Their biggest fear in life is being fat like me.

Yes, I'm sure thin people probably do receive some unkind words about their weight but believe me, most of the rest of us think you are lucky for being so thin. I look at some of my thin friends and watch them move around, Hell, jump around, get up and down off of the floor, run, do everything without even breaking a sweat. How I wish I could move so gracefully and effortlessly. It must be so freeing?! I'm sure you don't think of it that way though because you have never had problems tying your shoes because your belly is too big or getting up off of the floor because your knees are shot. I'm sure these are basic things that you probably take for granted but these are just some of the many things that are difficult for us that many people may not realize. Now that I'm getting older, these things are increasingly more difficult for me, and these years of extra weight on my body has really taken a toll.

Fat shaming and skinny shaming is both wrong. No one should be shamed for the way they look; no one. If you shame someone else for the way that their body looks it shows your own insecurities. A person who is truly happy with themselves does not feel the need to downgrade anyone. It's bullying and the shit needs to stop. That being said, I don't think that being overweight should be compared at all to being too thin. Just be a good person and if someone doesn't like you for how your body looks, you certainly don't want them in your life.

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Friday, March 17, 2017

Guest Post: It Was Fun Until It Got Serious

I saw my phone light up when another text message came from him. “Why can’t we get together Friday night?”, he asked. I could feel my frustration level rising. I had already told him I was busy Friday. We had hung out two days this week already and I wanted to go with my girlfriends out of town for shopping this weekend. I didn’t really think I needed to explain that. In fact, I was not obligated to him at all. I enjoyed our dates and talking on the phone but he was starting to encroach on more of my time and I wasn’t appreciating it. I sure hoped this guy wasn’t expecting more from this relationship than I wanted it to be…

Does this sound slightly familiar? Many of us have experienced a similar scenario….



No one likes to be alone - well, at least not ALL of the time. It is our natural inclination to desire companionship. Who wants to go to a movie alone and have no one else to laugh or cry with? Showing up at a party alone makes you feel like a social misfit. So, we cultivate friendships and stay connected with family to meet our needs. And...we might even toy with the idea of seeking a little romance. However, there are some unspoken rules we have established in our minds - we call the shots on how much we want to invest in that relationship. When those unspoken barriers get crossed, deafening alarms sound off in our mind and we start applying the brakes.

It’s not that we aren’t capable of deeper relationships. When we are ready, we will knock out any competition and cross huge obstacles to make it happen. But, the planets have to be aligned (at least in our minds) first or we will put up barriers to keep others out. Why? There is nothing inherently threatening about being “friends” on Facebook (although half of those on our “friends” list don’t meet that standard) and flirting with the new guy at the office, but that doesn’t mean you are ready to sit across the table at a restaurant from them or exchange phone numbers just yet.

Building a relationship requires time, effort, and - the real deal breaker - commitment. Now another person comes to rely on you and holds you accountable for your part of the relationship. This can be a wonderful thing if you are going into it expecting that. The rewards include having another person on your team, a supporter, and consistent companionship. You don’t have to go to the party alone! Someone shares your interests and your tribe just became stronger!

The downside? (This depends on your outlook.) The other person in the relationship expects something in return. They need you to be “available” for them and respond to their needs. If you commit to a romantic relationship, you open up a door most people do not get to enter. You open yourself to vulnerability and exposure. More of your time is dedicated to them and there is an expectancy that you will be connecting with them on a regular - probably daily - basis rather than occasionally or when the whim hits you like you would be with your casual friends. Simple communication can easily become complex and complicated because you “expect more”. If the feelings go deep and you feel the investment is “worth it”, you plow through the doubts and work at cultivating the relationship. If you count the cost and decide you are not willing to give up that part of your personal freedom, you will look for any reason to end it.

The saying is true that, “no man is an island unto himself”, but we certainly reserve the right to pick who stays on our island with us. As long as there is mutual enjoyment and perfect understanding of what you expect from each other, the relationship is a success. But, when one partner ventures into deeper water than the other is willing to go, the ship’s about to sink.

Regina Felty is an Educational Sign Language Interpreter by day and a blogger and virtual assistant by night. She loves playing with language and her favorite pastime is doing proofreading and editing for writers. You can visit her blog for posts about being an entrepreneur and other interesting tidbits of life in general. (www.rlfelty.com)



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