Tuesday, March 6, 2018

What To Expect When Dating Asian Women

Nowadays, the beauty of Asian women had garnered more attention than before. A lot of people had been noticing their fair appearances and their demure and conservative personality. That is why many men are considering dating Asian women.

If your White, Black, Latino or any other race and you plan to date an Asian woman, you have to understand that they are practically at the other end of the planet. Therefore, you should expect that their culture is extremely different from yours. The way they act may not be something that people of your race do. Here are some things you should expect when you are dating Asian Women.

Her Parents Won’t Like You... At Least At First

Asian parents treat their children like their property. They are basically the decision-makers of their child’s life. Your girlfriend’s entire life had already been planned out since she was baby from her career to her dating life. Because of this, her parents initially thinks that you are the destroyer of their plans. And yes, they are likely to be racists because most Asian parents believe that their children should marry within their nationality. However, if they see that you also want what is best for their daughter, then you will definitely earn a spot on their good side.

Her Parents Fuss Over Her... A Lot

Like what has mentioned above, Asian parents are in control of their daughter. So, expect them to fuss over daughter even around you. They are likely to comment on the way she looks whether it is positive or negative. They will say how pale, fat, ridiculous or anything she is even in public and it is not a rude thing to do. It is normal. So, do not feel sorry for her. Instead, encourage her that she looks fine to you despite what her parents say.

Eating Is Being Respectful

When you visit her and her family, expect them to serve you something to eat or drink. Whatever you do, do not reject whatever they offer you. Instead, eat it whether you like it or not. Serving food to a guest is a respectful act for Asians. That is why if you did not eat what they offered, you are considered disrespectful.

Shoes Are Off-Limits In Her House

It is traditional for Asians to remove their footwear when they enter their house. It is a sign of respect to the owner of the home. It is also believed to have a superstition underlying in that act. So, do not forget to remove your shoes when you enter her door. Just make sure your feet are clean and odorless and your toenails are well-manicured.

Chopsticks Are Daily Utensils

The most prominent thing you will notice on Asians is that they use chopsticks when they eat. Actually, they do not only use chopsticks for eating. They had discovered other creative uses for it. So, you should start learning how to use chopsticks. And besides, it is less likely that you will be given spoon and fork when you eat out. Eating with your hands is definitely a big NO.

Be Prepared To Eat Anything

Asian cuisine is nothing like any other cuisine. You will definitely feel the culture shock with the food they eat. Your Asian girlfriend will most likely be thrilled for you to try out this food. Be sure to prepare your taste buds and stomach for the experience. And remember, rejecting food is shamed upon.

They Pay Faster Than You

When on a date, it is typical for the guy to pay for their meal. But in Asian culture, paying for the meal is a race. The first one to get the bill will pay. So expect your Asian girlfriend to reach for the bill faster than you. This is definitely good, especially for your wallet. However, competing against her when paying the bill. And of course, try to win. If your girlfriend sees that you are not making any effort to pay, that will most likely be the last time you’ll ever date her.

She Has Expectations Towards You

Asians are very patronizing. They love being Asian. That is why your girlfriend will likely teach you how to live the Asian way. Because of that, she will expect a lot from you. She will expect you to say her full name right. She will expect you to learn a few phrases of her language. She will also expect you to follow a few Asian traditions. So, learn them.

Dating Asian women may seem nerve-wracking at a first glance. But actually, it is a learning experience. You do not get this introduced to Asia like how your girlfriend will do it. You will not only learn another perspective of the human race but also another side of love and dating that you will never experience in the west.


**this is a sponsored post

Tuesday, January 30, 2018

Abusive Relationships: You Are Not Alone

If you are in an abusive relationship, I want you to know that you are not alone.

Abuse doesn't have to be strictly physical abuse. It can be a plethora of behaviors.

Abuse is when someone continually tries to manipulate you and control you. Abuse is when someone blatantly lies to you over and over again. Abuse is when the person projects what they are doing onto you, accusing you of doing the things they are doing while maintaining their innocence. Abuse is blaming you for all of their problems; everything is your fault. Abuse is putting their hands on you, wrapping their hands around your neck, pushing you, kicking you, hitting you. Abuse is keeping you away from your family and friends, and viewing you as a possession, not a person.

All of these things are abuse, and narcissists thrive on abuse. They manipulate and take advantage of their "supply" aka YOU. They don't know how to truly love anyone because they only love themselves.

It's not your fault. You didn't do anything wrong. They are the ones who have this mental disorder. They will never take responsibility for what they are doing wrong unless they are apologizing to get something else out of it.

I know that you feel like you are a prisoner in your own home, you are trapped, and there is no way out. You feel hopeless and you cry on a daily basis.

I know. I've been there. I've even written a book about my experience called, "The Devil's Masquerade". I've researched this topic endlessly and I've spoken to numerous victims of narcissists and narcopaths (narcissistic sociopaths).

I know you feel alone, and you don't understand what is happening or why this is happening to you. I'm offering my hand. Grab my hand and let's talk about it.

You have to know that this is not what your life is meant to be. There is something better out there for you, but it's going to take work to get there. It's going to hurt, a lot, but the end results will be amazing. You can have your life back again, and you need to get out before it's too late.

I am no expert by any means and I am not offering up any expert advice, however, I feel that my knowledge and experience can be beneficial to anyone going through this. I didn't have anyone to talk to when I was going through all of this and it was the loneliest time of my life. I don't want you to feel alone anymore.

I understand how a narcissist thinks and many of the manipulation tactics. I also know some of the best ways to deal with a narcissist, especially when there are children involved. I can help you understand what is happening to you and why they are the way that they are.

I am offering a 30 minute one on one interruption-free chat session (via Skype) for $10. You can use the button below to secure a chat session and then I will contact you to set up a time that works best for you.

30 Minute Chat Session - email
I've been through it all and I came out shining bright on the other side. You don't realize how strong you really are until you have no other choice but to BE STRONG. 


Thursday, January 18, 2018

How to Get Over Being Cheated On and Move On

Have you ever had complete 100% trust in someone? You trusted this person so much that you never doubted them for a minute? ... That is, until they gave you a reason to doubt them? And then that complete trust you once had was tossed out the window as if it never even existed?

Remember that moment that you first found out. Maybe your spouse or significant other slept with someone else or were simply talking to other females in an inappropriate fashion. At first, you don't want to believe it. It has to be some sort of misunderstanding. It can't be true. He wouldn't do that to you; he loves you too much.

Until you have all of the proof right in front of you. You feel like your entire world is crashing down on top of you. He touched another woman! He told her he loved her! He said he loved me! How can this have happened? What did I do wrong?

No matter what the reason for cheating is, it's not you, it's them. If they weren't happy in the relationship then they should have gotten out first. Being cheated on can kill a person's self-esteem and make them feel worthless and just not good enough.

It's Up To You

Will you stay or will you go? No one can make that decision for you, but you. It's your decision if you want to try to forgive and forget the bad deed and work on the relationship or if you want to move on by yourself. In my opinion, if you forgive them for cheating once, that gives them a green light to do it again because they think you will be ok with it each and every time. It's not worth it to me, but like I said, that's your decision, not mine.

Most people will choose to leave a relationship once the other person cheats. Then you are left with a hole in your heart, feeling that you will never be able to move past this. You don't want to be with anyone else, you won't be able to trust again, and you won't be able to love again.

Eventually though, it will get better.

The thing is, it won't be the same for everyone. You can do things to help ease the pain, but it's going to take time.

  • The best thing you can do is surround yourself with loved ones and friends whom you can talk to about what you are feeling. Go out and have fun instead of sitting at home letting your thoughts get the best of you.
  • Find a new hobby. Discover a new hobby that you really enjoy and concentrate on that new hobby. Whether it be collecting something or creating something, see what's out there that really sparks your interest.
  • Cut off contact with the other person. They may grovel and beg for your forgiveness, but the best thing you can do is to not respond. Block them if you have to. There is nothing in the world that justifies cheating and you don't need to listen to the excuses or the apologies. 
  • Work on yourself. What's something you have been wanting to do for yourself for a long time? Maybe lost some weight? Work out more? Get a massage? Pay some attention to yourself and you will feel a lot better in the long run.
  • Make a to-do list. We all have things that we want to get done in the back of our head, but we just never get around to it. Well, stop just thinking about it and get busy! Make a list of some of these things and work on them as you have time. Always keep yourself busy so that you don't have time to think about your last relationship.
Whatever you do, do not jump into a relationship to fill that void. You need time to heal your broken heart before attempting a new relationship. This can be difficult because if someone hurts us, the first thing we want to do is prove to ourselves and that other person that we can find someone better, but rushing into a new relationship is not going to turn out well. You don't want to bring that baggage into a new relationship, so you must ensure that you are healed before moving on to someone new. That's not fair to the new person or yourself to do that.

Relaxation meditation

The biggest thing you need to remember is that you deserve better than to be with someone who can't or won't be faithful. You should be with someone who will never purposely do anything to hurt you.

You are worth more than that!

Once you feel the hurt lessen and that you are ready to date again, get out there and do it. Keep your guard up, but don't be afraid to open yourself up to new possibilities.

Tweet: How to move on from being cheated on: https://ctt.ec/cyb4e+ #infidelity #cheatedon #divorce @tatteredsoul77

BE SURE to sign up for my mailing list (top right-hand side of the page or below this post) to get updates and special offers sent straight to your email!

**This post contains affiliate links that I receive a small commission from if a purchase is made.