Thursday, October 19, 2017

Big Girls Can Have Amazing Sex, Too!!

This is gonna be a fun one but may be one that you don’t want to be caught reading at work!! We are going to talk about the big 3 letter word, SEX. More specifically, fat girl sex. I know some of you may find this difficult to believe but fat women have sex, and we have amazing sex!! Just because we may be overweight that does not mean that we don’t have sex and that definitely does not mean that we are only having sex with ugly desperate men.

This world would be so boring if everyone liked the same thing. I see numerous fat shamers in the world today who are too concerned about the size of someone else than they are their own shitty personality, and this can get depressing if you listen to the haters. Don’t listen to them! Believe it or not, a lot of men prefer big women! 

Big Girls: Don’t think for one minute that you have to settle for anyone who gives you a second glance. Men of all shapes and sizes like BBWs and even SSBBWs (super sized bbws). This includes the buff gym rat and the hot guy down the street. Of course not every guy likes big girls just like maybe you don’t like big guys or skinny guys -- different people have different preferences so don’t feel that you have to just settle. Find a man who you are attracted to, lets you know how much he is attracted to you and makes you feel beautiful.

Big Girls and Sex

As a big girl, I know what it’s like to feel insecure and uncomfortable with your own body especially when it comes to sex. You don’t feel comfortable getting completely undressed especially with the lights on, so you attempt to cover up with a blanket or ensure that it is nice and dark.

But guess what? The guy in the room with you, he knows you are big and he thinks you are sexy as fuck!! Unless you are strutting around in spanx squishing up your fat rolls, he most likely knows that they are there and doesn’t care! He thinks you are sexy and most likely wants to see, touch, and kiss every inch of you. Let him! If you are too worried about how you look he will pick up on it and it will make the whole thing less enjoyable for both of you.

I’ve heard men say that sex with a thin woman can hurt because of protruding bones, especially if the guy is skinny, too, and the whole bone on bone thing, ouch! I’m definitely not thin shaming anyone, but I’m just passing on what I’ve heard. Some men are even worried that they will hurt a small woman so they hold back during sex because they don’t want to break her. They don’t have to worry about that with a BBW!

I’ve also heard many men say that they prefer sex with bigger women because they are just plain better at it. That makes sense. I mean, if we are already a bit insecure, we want to make sure that the man is very satisfied and will want to come back for more. Most of us try NOT to be a dead lay because that’s just boring and will leave the man disappointed. Sometimes the thinner beautiful woman thinks that she is doing him a favor by sleeping with him and that she doesn’t need to put any time or effort into it. Some men love the feel of a voluptuous body; they want someone they can cuddle with who will keep them warm at night.

Depending on your size (and his), some sex positions may be more difficult or uncomfortable. The key is to not be afraid to try new things. A good man will want to make sure that you are just as satisfied as he is, so he will be more than willing to try new things with you and find out what works the best for both of you. I know, I know, you may feel embarrassed or even humiliated at first if a certain position doesn’t work, but believe me, he probably doesn’t care, he just wants to feel you the best way possible and he wants you to be comfortable! I'm sure he will love the view of you with your legs on his shoulders!

You have to get to a point where you realize that if a guy wants to have sex with you, it means he is attracted to you.. I mean, unless he is a complete piece of shit who only cares about getting his dick wet and not who it’s with, he finds you sexy!! Let your guard down, put your sexy panties on and rock it, girl! Feeling confident and sexy with yourself will only make him more attracted to you and the sex even better.

BBWs can still have amazing sex and enjoy every orgasm at any size! Don’t let your size inhibit you, learn to love and accept your size and be open and accommodating in the bedroom. You may be amazed at the difference a little confidence in the bedroom can make no matter what size you are.
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Thursday, October 12, 2017

Absurd First Date Stories, Part 1

I personally have never had any crazy first date stories. I've had some funny things happen but nothing really like OMG I can't believe that just happened stories. I know there are a lot of them out there and I love hearing about them! When you go out on a first date with anyone, whether it's someone you met online, a blind date that a friend set up for you, or with a person you met in a bar, you probably don't really know that person and anything can happen on a first date. I've asked my followers for some crazy first date stories and received quite a few responses! I'm going to share them here on the blog every once in awhile for something different. I got a lot of responses and have picked out some favorites. Here we go:

I met this girl online and we started talking and we hit it off pretty good. She was exactly the girl in all her photos online. So I was thinking "this is too good to be true" well we finally caught time free to go out to eat one night (our first time meeting face to face). Well, things are still going great. As we are eating she says, "I wore a skirt for easy access, I'm gonna fuck you tonight" we end up having sex in my truck and at my place. When we woke up we did it again.
After I dropped her off it's like I no longer existed. She blocked me on everything and when I finally saw her again she acted like she didn't know who I was. Turns out, she has done this to a few of my friends as well.

So women really do use men just for sex? Why do men get such a bad reputation for doing this when women do it, too?? He's not the first man that has been used just for sex!

The guy told me we were going to go out for dinner and not to eat anything. I said okay. I met him at the little village where we were going to eat, have wine, and freshly made chocolate (it's a really nice French place near Dallas). Instead of going into the place, he says let's go across the street for a minute to the Chocolate Shoppe and he went in and proceeded to get a free sample and asked me if I wanted a free sample. I said yes. Then he said okay let's go... I was mortified cuz I was getting ready to buy some chocolate but he was already out the door. He went to the bakery next door and asked for a free sample of bread and you guessed it, walked out the door with the free sample! Went across the street to the French restaurant finally. We go sit down inside and he tells the guy he would like to sample some wines before he picks a glass and that we wouldn't be eating as he just wanted the free bread while he samples wine! By this time I was disgusted and getting ready to leave, and as I was getting ready to get up and leave he leans over towards me and looks right at my face and asked me: when was the last time somebody licked your pussy? I yelled at him, told the waiter to bring me my check for what I had ordered because I wasn't doing free samples, and I left. And he had the audacity to wonder why I left! And guess what? This was my banker! He's the manager of the bank that I used to go to! Freaking pisses me off and women wonder why we can't find a man! Guys like this. That's why.

We stopped at his sisters house to feed her cats while she was away so I start thinning through a magazine to look up to see him standing in front of me, dick out.. First and last date ... and a long walk home lol smfh 🙄

2 mins after meeting at coffee shop he wanted me to go to his car in a dark and deserted part of the parking lot. Then got very hostile and aggressive when I refused. He tried to steer me towards it while gripping his hand firmly on my shoulder.  My adrenaline kicked in and I stood my ground with a harsh stance. But afterward, I was shaking. These are the things men never have to give a second thought to and wonder why women are so "paranoid".

Wow, that last one is scary as shit!! Always remember, there are perverts and weirdos everywhere, not just online. Always, always, always be careful when going out on a first date with someone you don't know well. Be sure that you are in a public place, and take separate cars if you are going somewhere else. You have to be cautious and protect yourself!!

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Thursday, October 5, 2017

The Real Face of Severe Depression

I wrote this post 3 days ago. I'm better now but I am leaving this as I wrote it, just fixing a few spelling errors. I want everyone to feel what having real depression is really like and how it can just show up out of the blue. I felt fine the night before and then I woke up in the morning like this. Fighting back tears all day and fighting these thoughts in my head. I absolutely hate days like this. Depression is a bitch.. but it's real. It's not something you can just "think positively" and it will go away. People with severe depression's brains don't work that way. You never know when it's going to hit you. This was one of the worst days I have had in a very long time................

This is what depression looks like. A desperate feeling of spiraling out of control, like you don’t matter, like you’re all alone and have nothing. When it’s all you can think about and it feels as if the negative thoughts are completely consuming you.

I’ve never felt so alone until recently. I have my kids and my mother, but other than that, I have no one. I have no one to talk to, I have no one to vent to, I have no one who can understand the loneliness that I am feeling. I used to have a lot of friends when I was younger. My ‘friends’ don’t have time for me anymore. I thought I had a new friend right here close to me but she went from calling me her bff to forgetting that I exist when a new man came into the picture, so I’m realizing she was never a real friend in the first place. I literally have no one. I don’t have that one friend that I can call up any time of the day or night to vent or cry to. I’m just here, alone.

The negative thoughts keep creeping in, like in 6 years my kids will be grown and out of the house, and my mother isn’t going to live forever. What happens then? I’m 40 years old and don’t want to spend the remaining years of my life completely and utterly alone. I’ve been through Hell over the last 5 years. I tried to stay strong and fight through it, but in the end I’m just here with nothing.

I’m not worth anyone’s time. I’m the forgettable one; the one that everyone forgets that I exist. No one texts me, no one calls me, no one comes over, no one checks on me to see if I’m ok, no one gives 2 shits about me. Oh, I’m sure they would say that they do on social media but they can’t be bothered to go out of their way to see me or even find out if I’m ok. I hint around to my friends that we should get together for lunch or just to talk and of course they say, “Oh, that would be great, we need to do that”, but then when I ask them when they are free or for a time, I never got a definitive answer. I mean, they say that they would love it but when it comes to actually doing it, they can’t be bothered.

I read all of the posts on social media of friends going out and doing fun things with their families and friends, and I don’t have that. None of my friends are single, they all have someone. On the rare occasion that I do get invited somewhere, I am usually left to feel out of place; the third wheel just there with me, myself, and I.

I’m trying to get my freelancing career up and running. I read so many success stories of people who are living the dream, making great money, going on beautiful lavish vacations, and here I am, forever stuck here. I’m trying but not getting anywhere so it seems pointless. Even if I could go on lavish vacations, who would I go with???  I feel defeated. I’m not meant to be successful at much of anything I do. Everyone else is, not me.

No one else understands because they all have someone, they have their ‘person’, their bestie, the one who is always there for them no matter what, whether it’s a friend or significant other. I’m just existing. Right now, my purpose is to raise my kids the best I can but one day they will be grown and then what? What’s my purpose then? I have none. To exist. To take up space and oxygen. What is the point of even living??  I can’t seem to find a good reason.

The only reason I’m posting this here is because I have no one else to say this to. Yes, I suffer from severe depression… but everything I’ve typed is true, who WOULDN’T be depressed?
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